yest, blooger dun wanna let me log in... anyway realised that my recess week is the week starting 25sept... got bluffed....

ANYWAY

Was thinking again to myself, if u were to be unhappy with a friend, before u flare up, imagine of times that ur fren may be pissed off with u, but bear with it since u are his/her fren...

Sometimes u may have said something insentitive to ur friend, u can sense ur fren being clearly unhappy over it but did not get flared up... OR, sometimes when u reflect, u suddenly realised that sth u said to a fren is clearly unsentitive but ur fren did not show any signs of unhappiness at u to u...

I supposed, a fren often bear with u when u are being unreasonable or insensitive, so in return, u shld do the same to them...

when u bear with it, the unhappiness will soon be forgotten... but when u decided to express ur unhappiness, relationship tends to strain... even thou u can well argue that expresing one's feelings enable both parties to know what is amissed becos one will juz spat out all the discontentment, and thus, they will be able to reflect and work on it so as to solve the prob, but u must bear in mind, most of the time, the unhappiness that u feel are unreasonable, thus there's nv a prob to begin with, and the expression of anger will merely make the other party have a bad impression of u and also makes facing the other party more awkward...

so the impt things is to bear with it... why must u bear with it? becos others also bear with u... so it is nv a onesided affair... u are not the party who is giving in all time... u may not realise, but the fact that ppl stays as frens involved bearing with one another...

Confucious said, ji suo bu yu, wu shi yu ren... what u dun desire, dun do it to others... if u turn it arnd, it can mean what u desire others to do to u, do it to others...

if u wan others to bear with u when u are being unreasonable, bear with others when they are being unreasonable...